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[podling]

So I was talking to someone about BDS&M stuff the other day... actually mostly just about bondage. And at some point I said that I think most people are a little bit attracted (or turned on, more like) to a small amount of it. Not necessarily in a way that would be expressed regularly, but just kind of in the back of the mind.

Anyway, talking to tanaise about it, she said this... "And I think that probably everyone has a little S/M side to themselves because everyone simultaneously wants completely control of their lives and total bossing about by someone else." And I think she makes a valid point...

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[stronae.livejournal.com]

Well, let's look at contemporary clothing items, shall we?

1) Necktie. All about bondage.
2) Rings. All about bondage, whether they're the wedding ring or not.
3) Bracelets and anklets. Again, all about being bound.
4) Necklaces.

So, in the officeplace, you can look around and get a better feeling for who's liking what. :O

[deza.livejournal.com]

Heh, I have a specific anklet that I wear *just* when I feel like being tied up. It gives me a nice sense of being manacled, and very few people every guess why I'm in such a good mood on those days.

[stronae.livejournal.com]

Heh. I'll have to pay more attention to your feet, then. :)

[deza.livejournal.com]

Or my neck. I tend to wear my collar a lot, too.

[podling]

I know what you mean... I have this one necklace type thing that's bendable loosely woven together metals that sits tight on me however I bend it. And it's great! It's this sexy bound feeling...

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[deza.livejournal.com]

Mmm, yes. Of course, the other advantage to wearing the collar is the most interesting people keep wanting to clip a leash to it!

[piratejenny.livejournal.com]

Oh dear, I have a habit of wearing many bracelets (four today--well, three and my watch, which is like a bracelet). I'm not into anklets the way I used to be though. Hmm

[stronae.livejournal.com]

And have we done the requisite amount of introspection, upon this discovery? :)

[piratejenny.livejournal.com]

I figure it may somehow be related to the fact that I've always wanted a four-poster bed . . .

[stronae.livejournal.com]

::Stroke chin:: I think you might be on to something there. I'd encourage you to explore it, but I don't know you that well. :)

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[podling]

It's okay, she'll be exploring it right after she moves to NJ, I'm sure... ;)

[piratejenny.livejournal.com]

IF we get a new bed. Of course, the current headboard and footboard do have--hmm, how to describe? They're like small posts. The bedroom set is from the '30s. podling calls them nubs, but I'm not sure I'd wanna go there . . .

[stronae.livejournal.com]

Is that because of some reputation of NJ that I don't know about, or because you know her infinitely better than I do?

Hmmm, podling unleashed....

[podling]

Well, I'm sure NJ has all kinds of reputations. But it's really because I know jennywrenn better and I know that she's trying to move, and that she's not buying a big-ass bed until after she moves, if she buys one at all. See?

And I *want* be be unleashed on the world!!!! Yeah!!!

[astrophysicat.livejournal.com]

hey! No fair. I don't wear any of those things. Hell I don't even wear a wrist-watch, or even a belt for that matter. What does this mean about me? That I dream of having sex swimming free and unencumbered in the ocean?

Oh, well, that's true.... but but but. That doesn't mean I wouldn't necessarily also like to be tied... Well not while swimming, that would be fucking scary.

[stronae.livejournal.com]

Ooh! Wristwatch. Good one. Also about the bondage -- here, you're also bound to time as well. It's a two-for-one special in the house of astrophysicat. :)

If you actually do like to be tied, but you haven't worn any of the paraphenalia yet, then it just means that you haven't discovered the joys of wearing it yet. That's all.

[podling]

I made astrophysicat buy a belt that looked really cool when we went shopping last time, but she doesn't think she'll ever wear it. How sad is that?

[stronae.livejournal.com]

That's silly. Make her bring it down to D*C!

[podling]

Oh, she will! It's what it was bought for. Even if I end up being the one wearing it. I love it, I think it's a fabulous belt...

[deza.livejournal.com]

I've been tied up while swimming. It was part of a survival course I took once. It's actually surprisingly easy to do. And according to [Unknown site tag], it's cute, too.

[podling]

I've thought about that before, really. And it's so true! I mean, I have rings, necklaces, etc. galore. Even my ear cuff could be seen as a binding force.

Rings especially though, and given the wedding ring = sign of bond.

And then there's bras, which are all about binding a part of the woman. Sure, they have practical reasons (I would *not* want to be exercising without a sports bra, that's all I'm saying) but still.

[stronae.livejournal.com]

Certain kinds of shoes, too. Like, the pumps with the laces that go 3/4 up the calf?

[podling]

Aw, hell yeah! And most boots, really.

[piratejenny.livejournal.com]

Especially the thigh-high ones that snap all the way up.